Save you marriage tactics can work in a variety of ways and many guys try so many things to get their love back. I know, because I’ve been there and felt the almost-hopelessness that women so close to us in our lives can create. I mean, when you know someone that well and they seem like they start to change, it can be devastating. You seem like you’ve always been the same person, and always will be, but they start to change. What’s the deal?
Many guys try tactics that they think will work, but usually don’t. Trying to talk out their problems. Trying to solve the problems by just letting your wife win… the list could go on and on. But even though your wife does want to ‘win’, what she really wants is for the MAN to provide her with security and really LEAD HER. She wants you to really be the one that takes her, comforts her, makes her secure, and leads her. If you’ve slipped out of that roll, she’s probably slipping from you and you can see that in everything she does.
The real question is, how to get that back?
Sometimes that’s easy to do, and sometimes it can take some time. It depends on how far from the path you’ve deviated. What I would suggest is to take a good look at you situation. How long ago did you start losing the role of the man in the relationship? This isn’t a ‘who’s more important’ argument, this is a role argument. Now, see what you can do to modify your behavior a bit. You may have to do it soft and gentle (getting back into the role) at first, but accelerate with each day and see what comes of it. Honestly, because this could mean so much more.
Good luck!
