Sometimes it seems like at the beginning of a marriage, everything seems perfect… and that’s very imaginable, seeing how right after the ceremony (which a basically a huge expensive party–exclusively for you) 2 people go on a once in a lifetime vacation and then come home to unwrap a bunch of gifts. It’s like your birthday, a vacation, and christmas all jam packed into a couple of weeks. The feeling is overwhelming.
But after time things start to slow down, the passion of the beginning begins to wean off and the reality of the details of living with someone… day in and day out… start to multiply.
The enchanting love that first flowed through the relationship begins to dry up a bit. And that leads to other things too… like less fun talking, more fights and…. less sex.
So what happens? You can try and talk it out. Probably have already done that. And at the beginning, talking probably worked alright. Fights would only last so long. But then fights started to last a little longer and got more serious.
Fights turned into weeks at a time, often with one or the other actually leaving the house for a day or more. Maybe at a friends house, maybe to a hotel.
Eventually it starts to get pretty bad, where it’s basically on the rocks. At this point, many people freak out and start to look for alternatives. Sometimes these lead them down a path that’s pretty destructive,… like copious amounts of alcohol. While it temporarily solves problems (in your head)…. the reality is the problem still persists.
Others try more positive routes like marriage counseling, but that costs a fortune. And on top of that, marriage counseling rarely seems to actually WORK and many times, couples throw thousands down the drain after their marriage counseling actually ends in divorce anyways.
So what do you do? The biggest hinderance to all problems lies in the fact that things that 99% of guys try to do to resolve relationships, actually make them worse. That’s right. After their wife nags and nags, finally, guys give up and try to talk it out. Which often results in the wife bringing up issues from a long time ago, irrelevant arguments, etc and it doesn’t work.
You see, talking kills attraction. And you want your wife to be attracted to you. That is the only way you’ll get her back to loving you, and back in the bedroom, which is really the spice that holds it all together. And when you understand how to make her fall back in love with you, then you’ll know it made all the difference.